One question in particular made me think. I prayed about my response and when I wrote her back, I felt the Holy Spirit’s presence.
“Do you really answer these emails? Are you for real? Was that really you in that before “fat” photo? How long did that take?
What is the purpose of losing weight when we all meet the same end anyway? I am morbidly obese and I have been watching thin and fat folks most of my almost 43 years and I can tell you that there is no difference in us. If people truly knew what was within me that my fatness holds back, they would prefer me fat!”
I can tell that you are passionate about this subject and you certainly have a lot of questions!
Since I am responding to this post, then that answers the “Are you real?” question.
Yes, that is me in the “Before” picture. It took me a total of 18 months I’d guess between the before and after picture but that wasn’t consecutive.
Rather I lost 70 pounds my first year and then lost the rest in 2-5 pound increments to reach my final weight loss goal.
You asked an interesting question: “What is the purpose of losing weight when we all meet the same end anyway?”
Here are my thoughts:
Everyone has a beginning (birth) and an end (death). Life is the part that happens in the middle.
How we choose to go through “the middle” is up to us. I spent over 20 years obese and it was seriously impacting my middle, literally and figuratively!
- I had low energy, tiredness, and felt self-conscious about my size.
- I felt out of control with my eating.
- I worried about whether I was going to fit into certain chairs.
- I felt squeezed into airline, sporting events, and movie theater seats.
- I couldn’t ride certain amusement park rides because the seat belt wouldn’t fit around me.
- I hated being limited to two stores for shopping – who only offered over-priced, “old lady” clothes.
- I was having high blood pressure problems and had to be on medication that was expensive and made me feel worse than the high blood pressure did.
- I had frequent bouts of depression and seething anger inside.
That was my life before – my middle.
It took a chest pain to make me say “enough is enough.” I decided that I wanted a different life than the one I was living.
For me, my love of sweets, fast food, and junk food was not worth continuing to trade the quality of my life over.
God gave me many other food choices that were good and I was going to focus on those so that I could gain the health and energy I needed to fulfill His purpose.
Everybody has to make that choice for themselves though.
I ultimately figured out that it wasn’t about the weight but in how I was managing my life. Or in my case, not managing it but hiding out in food.
I don’t believe that God cares what you weigh. I don’t believe He is up in heaven with a scale and tape measure, fretting if you gain a pound or two. I believe He leaves the size we choose to maintain up to us, much like our hairstyle or clothing choices.
In fact, I only know of 2 people mentioned in the Bible that were obese – and one of them was Eli, God’s priest. God never condemned Eli for his weight. Rather, He admonished Eli because Eli refused to control his corrupt sons.
God always deals with people on the heart level rather than appearance. But the heart is what people most resist surrendering to God.
They’d rather just focus on the outside so that they can look good before others.
In my case, I did decide to surrender my heart to God so that He could heal my depression and anger. The process wasn’t easy as God worked on changing me from the inside out. But what freedom as He loved me through the healing process!
I wouldn’t trade that for anything.
I found it interesting that you said “If people truly knew what was within me that my fatness holds back, they would prefer me fat!” Wow. That is a very telling statement.
When I was heavy, I thought if I lost weight, I would become like Alexis Carrington, the villain from the old T.V. show Dynasty. I thought I would become someone I didn’t like.
Not only that, but I thought I would turn into a “loose” woman!
None of that happened.
I did not shed my morals along with my excess fat. But what did happen was that I stopped being passive and letting people walk all over me. I stopped being a people pleaser.
And you know what? I discovered that you can stand up for yourself without being nasty about it!
You can treat people with love and respect, but you can still say “no” and set boundaries. God taught me balance in my weight loss process.
So you see, Patty, you get to choose how you are going to live your life. If you are content with your weight and your life as it is, then who am I to tell you anything different?
You are an adult. God gave us all free will. I pray that you live with no regrets once you reach the end of this life’s journey.
One thing is for certain though. If you never make another right decision in your life or never do anything right again, you have already made the most important right decision – accepting Jesus Christ as your Savior.
You are loved and accepted by God on that basis alone. Everything else pales in comparison to the richness of that relationship.
That is the essence of life anyway. “And this is eternal life, that they may know You, the only true God, and Jesus Christ whom You have sent (John 17:3).”
God bless you!
Be blessed in health, healing and wholeness,
Author of the Take Back Your Temple program
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