Having once eaten my way up to 240 pounds and a size 22, I ate for many reasons that had nothing to do with body hunger.
Overeating is becoming even more common in our culture of food abundance, advertising, and the addictive properties of man-altered foods.
Although both sexes can struggle with eating too much, I’m gearing this article toward women simply because I’ve heard their stories most often through emails.
Here are the top 10 reasons women eat too much, gleaned from my emails over the 10 years TBYT has been online (in no particular order):
1. Permissible Self Care
You may feel guilty or that it is selfish to take time for yourself. You’ve become so busy taking care of everyone that you put yourself on the shelf. So food becomes a way to “rest” and make yourself feel special without feeling guilty – at least temporarily.
2. Emotional Novocaine
Food becomes a way to numb yourself to uncomfortable feelings, such as anger, anxiety, stress, boredom, depression or frustration.
3. The Food is There
Leftovers are calling you from the kitchen or you are over-enthusiastic in “tasting” the food you are preparing. Before you know it, you’ve grabbed a little bit of this and that until you have consumed the equivalent calories in a meal.
4. Last Supper Eating
If you are a diet veteran, then you are probably very familiar with “Last Supper” eating (also known as “Get while the getting is good”). You are so accustomed to going on diets that you tell yourself that you better eat up your favorite “goodie” because you won’t be allowed to have it ever again.
5. Relationship Building
Food becomes a way you show love to others. After I got married, I found myself gaining weight. I discovered a simple reason for it. I had started fixing my portion sizes larger subconsciously.
I was cooking for my husband and preparing his plate as well, matching my portion sizes to his! He is a big guy and I’m a petite woman, so no wonder I was getting bigger eating as much as he was. To deal with the issue, I asked him to prepare his own plate or when I prepared his plate, I was careful to fix the portion size appropriate for my size.
6. Something to Do
Eating becomes a habit that you do when you are bored or you use it as a form of procrastination. You use it as a delaying tactic to avoid an activity that you view as painful, either consciously or unconsciously.
7. Food Insecurity
You may have experienced hunger as a child if your parent had difficulty putting food on the table. The official name for this one is “food insecurity.” Deep down, you are afraid of experiencing insecurity from lack of food again, so you overeat as an insurance policy.
8.It’s New and Improved
Food becomes a form of excitement. I experienced this one on vacation last year. When you travel, do you anticipate eating food you’ve never eaten before (new food) or eating familiar food, but prepared a new way (improved food)? This can also happen when you attend a new restaurant or want to try a new food item advertised on television. The fear of scarcity is behind this one: “If I don’t eat it now, I may never get the opportunity to eat it again.”
9. It’s Free
You can be vulnerable to eating too much at church dinners, banquets, family holiday dinners, or eating out on an employer expense account. Since you are not paying for it, you want to eat as much as you can to take full advantage of the freebie.
10. Bottomless Food Pits
Have you ever had the experience of sitting down to watch T.V. with a bag of buttered popcorn or potato chips in hand, and then found yourself reaching into an empty bag a short while later? If so, then you fell into a bottom-less food pit. It’s keeping a large serving in front of you, eating mindlessly until it is gone.
I wrote this article to make you aware of the many environmental cues that can tempt you to eat when you aren’t hungry. In that way, you can seek God’s wisdom as to effective ways to handle them. He promises:
If any of you lacks wisdom, let him ask of God, who gives to all liberally and without reproach, and it will be given to him (James 1:5).”
Which of the top 10 reasons do you struggle with most often? Take a moment to write them all of them down. Then submit these areas to the Lord in prayer, asking Him to renew your mind. Humble yourself and set your mind on obedience to the Lord so that food will regain its proper place in your life.
Here’s a personal example. Back when I was a nurse, #1 was a big struggle for me. But I had to realize that I was running on empty. It is like a well of water that keeps pouring out. If there is not a continual source of water to replenish it, then that well will run dry sooner or later!
So whenever I was tired, either mentally, physically, or emotionally, I learned that it was necessary for me to take quiet time for myself. Otherwise, I’d start to resent the very people I was trying to help and serve, taking on the attitude or a martyr or victim.
I quieted my soul with the familiar words of the 23rd Psalm, verses 1-3:
The Lord is my shepherd;
I shall not want.
He makes me to lie down in green pastures;
He leads me beside the still waters.
He restores my soul;
He leads me in the paths of righteousness
For His name’s sake.
Do you need a Word from the Lord to meditate upon so that you can renew your mind in your areas of struggle? Post the scriptures that you are using to renew your mind in that area. Or if you need some, then post your requests here too.
Your change may not happen overnight, but keep meditating on God’s word and keep practicing whatever the Lord teaches you to turn that situation around. It may not be easy – they don’t call Faith a fight for nothing.
But if you hang in there and refuse to give up, you are destined to win!
Be blessed in health, healing, and wholeness,
Creator of the ‘Take Back Your Temple’ program
P.S. Are you ready to grow stronger Spiritually and heal emotionally as you achieve your ideal weight? Let the Take Back Your Temple program be your plan. God’s way is change from the inside out and once you are changed His way, you are never the same!