How Do I Control my Emotions as a Christian?

Athena Dean HoltzA common question many Believers ask is: “How Can I Control My Emotions as a Christian?”

My new interview series features the best encouragement on managing emotions from noted Christian authors.

Our first inspirational interview is with Athena Dean Holtz. A Christian publisher, speaker, author, blogger, radio personality, and pastor’s wife, Athena’s latest book is Full Circle: Coming Home to the Faithfulness of God.

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1. What are your favorite scriptures that help you manage your emotions and why?

  • “Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus (Philippians 4:6-7).
  • “Be still, and know that I am God; I will be exalted among the nations, I will be exalted in the earth (Psalm 46:10).”

Both of these scriptures provide next steps in order for us to focus on Christ to manage our emotions. Each one gives us something to do.

Instead of being anxious, pray with thanksgiving, trusting Him to answer those prayers and take care of the situation that is causing us to be anxious.

As we obey Him in this small step, His peace guards our hearts and minds. While the situation may not change, He is faithful to teach us to trust Him for the outcome that will glorify Him best.

I know one of my weaknesses is to assume the worst. When my emotions start ruling my world, it’s time to be still. To slow down. To focus on The One who loves me more than life itself.

As I do that, I am able to take my thoughts captive and remember that my God is sovereign. Nothing happens to me that He doesn’t know about. I can trust Him!

2. What are 3 of your best tips to help others manage their emotions in Godly ways?

  • Understand that the enemy prowls around, like a roaring lion, seeking who he might devour. Put on your armor, every day.  Speak out loud as in the statements below:

Today, I put on the belt of Truth … Lord help me to speak only the truth today. (Ephesians 6:14)

I put on the breastplate of righteousness, that my heart might be right before You. (Ephesians 6:14)

I shod my feet in the gospel of peace, that I might go wherever You send me today. (Ephesians 6:15)

I lift up the shield of faith to protect me from every fiery darts of the evil one. (Ephesians 6:16)

I put on the helmet of salvation, which is the mind of Christ, Lord let me have Your thoughts today. (Ephesians 6:17)

I take up the sword of the Spirit, which is the Word of God, sharper than any two-edged sword…help me to use that sword against every lie of the evil one that comes my way today. (Ephesians 6:17)

And I pray in the Spirit when I need to talk to You today. (Ephesians 6:18)

Thank You, Lord, that You don’t leave me unprotected, but give me Your glory as a rear guard.(Isaiah 58:8)

And so, I choose the will of God, and I refuse the will of Satan. (Isaiah 7:14-15)

Spirit of God, rule and reign in my life. (Psalm 51:10)

Rule and reign in my thoughts, my attitudes, my emotions, my feelings. (2 Corinthians 10:5)

In every area, Spirit of God, I seek first Your kingdom and give You permission to rule and reign. (Matthew 6:33)

And I pray against every strategy of the evil one to rob my joy, faith and courage, and ask You to render every one of those unholy strategies ineffective, in the Name of Jesus.

AMEN. (Ephesians 6:10-13)

  • Bathe yourself in worship music. He inhabits the praises of His people. Worshiping Him changes our perspective and softens our hearts towards Him.
  • Surrender all your fears, doubts, anxieties, loneliness, and every other negative emotion to Him. Tell Him how you feel. He already knows it, but He wants to hear you admit your struggle. Don’t be afraid to lament. Cry out as David did, pour out your heart to Him, for He is your refuge. (Psalm 62:8)

3. What sabotaging thoughts (lies) do Believers need to release that keep them in bondage to negative emotions? 

  • Lie #1: God doesn’t really care about you.
  • Lie #2: You’ll never measure up to what He expects.
  • Lie #3: The world is a scary place and God isn’t concerned with the details of your life

4. What are some things Believers can do at the “moment of decision” when they are tempted to practice destructive behavior when emotionally upset?

  • Bind every strategy of the unholy realm that would try to influence you towards destructive behavior, in Jesus’ Name.
  • Loose the mind of Christ and His peace to flood your mind, will and emotions, in Jesus’ Name (Matthew 16:19)
  • Turn on worship music and sing out loud
  • Surrender fully to God and ask Him to change your emotions and give you the mind of Christ

–  Athena Dean Holtz

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I thank Athena for sharing her wisdom with us!

Be blessed in health, healing and wholeness,

Kimberly Taylor

Creator of the Take Back Your Temple program

About the author 

Kimberly Taylor

Kimberly Taylor is a certified Christian life coach and has a heart to help others struggling with emotional eating and weight loss. Once 240 pounds and a size 22, she can testify of God’s goodness and healing power to overcome. She lost 85 pounds as a result of implementing techniques to overcome emotional eating and binge eating disorder.

Kim is the author of "The Take Back Your Temple Program," which teaches Christians how to take control of their weight God's way and the books "The Weight Loss Scriptures" and "The Weight Loss Prayers."

Kim has been featured in Prevention Magazine, Charisma Magazine and on CBN’s 'The 700 Club' television program.

  • Wow!!!! Double wow!!!! I needed that today!!!! I have been standing on scripture and praying concerning my weight and had rid 12 pounds down to the lowest I’ve been in a long time. I was feeling energized and pain free for once in a long while. Then out of no where I lost all control today. I didn’t feel like exercising, I was constantly thinking about what I was going to eat next, and just feeling bad. I struggled all day. I knew I had to get in the word for help. I was reading my Bible and stopped to check my email and here I am! I rushed out the house with out my armor this morning and whack upside my head, the enemy sucker punched me!!!! But I’m back on track! Thanks a million for sharing Kim!!!! I gotta go get my workout in!!! I’m suited up and ready for battle!!!
    I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me!!!
    Be blessed all!!! :0)

  • This what I really need to hear today… I especially struggle in this area…alot! What a great birthday present. And how God speaks thur you; Kim and Athena. Thank you so much. bless!

  • This is positive and uplifting. I have been I’ll withe flu virus and been feeling pretty awful but after reading this it is a tonic and feel much more confident and less stressed. Thank you, God is Good and speaks through this lady very well.

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