What do you despise?

What you despise, you tend to lose. What you value, you tend to keep.

Esau’s story in the Bible is a cautionary tale about what not to do! According to Genesis 25:29-34, he lost his birthright over a bowl of stew!

While we might shake our heads at his poor decision, how many of us are making similar trades? I’ll explain what I mean in just a moment.

Esau’s trade was described as proof that he “despised his birthright.”

In Biblical days, the birthright was of great importance. As the firstborn, Esau was entitled to receive a double portion of what his brother received of their father’s inheritance. He would become the leader of family. Great respect and honor were his.

Yet the Bible says that Esau despised this. You might ask, “How could someone hate his blessing?”

I looked up the word ‘despise’ because I thought it only meant “hate.” But in addition to hate, I discovered that “despise” also means “unworthy of consideration or notice.

At the moment of decision, Esau judged his birthright as unworthy of consideration or notice. So he lost it because he did not properly value it from the beginning!

What do you despise?

Using that last definition, do you despise good health?

I see good health as a wonderful birthright because it is easier to fulfill God’s purpose for our lives when live strong, healthy, and vibrant daily.

Ask yourself, ‘What is my “bowl of stew’ for which I’m trading my health birthright?”

Mine was Pepperidge Farm’s coconut cake! It was my binge food of choice.

What we despise, we tend to lose. However what we value, we tend to keep.

Say this statement out loud, “Thank you Lord for my health. My health is worthy of my notice and consideration.”

A phrase popped into my mind when faced with a strong temptation to trade in my health birthright recently:

“I discipline myself so I can help somebody else.”

I pray that you too will regain and hold on to your health birthright so that you can inspire others to do the same. You can do this through transforming “despise” into “worthy.”

Here are 2 ways you can turn around “What you despise.”

The late motivational speaker Earl Nightingale once defined success as, “The progressive realization of a worthy ideal.”

Let’s look at two parts of this statement:

  1. Worthy. Let’s imitate our Lord through declaring the end from the beginning, as stated in Isaiah 46:10. If you don’t know what you have deemed worthy in your life, pay attention to the choices you make every day. If you are spending time or treasure on something, then your actions show that you think this ideal is worthy.

Are your actions and habits leading you to a worthy ideal? Have you properly valued what you do daily?

English churchman and historian Thomas Fuller once said, “He does not believe that does not live according to his belief.”

If you believe in Jesus for example, you will live like it. If you don’t live it, you don’t really believe it. As believers, our goal should be to live out our belief in God every day.

He is worthy! Remind yourself of all the things you value and why often throughout the day so that you won’t forget about them.

  1. Progressive realization. To make progress, you must walk out the process. When you walk out the process daily, you are successful by definition. You have faith that the results will come as long as you walk out the process daily.

You do not let impatience take you off course. Patience is a fruit of the Holy Spirit.

Your faith is as sure as someone who sets a course to take a trip to the other side of the country. They get in the car and start driving in that direction. They know they are getting closer to it with each passing mile.

Of course if that person stops driving because they decide that the destination is not worthy to them or they keep turning back and have to start the trip over, it will take longer to reach their destination!

Once you are on a worthy road, it is best to stay on that road until you reach your destination.

Here is what you need to despise and what I’m learning to do: Despise any temptations that take you away from your worthy ideal. In Romans 8:18, the apostle Paul said, “For I consider that the sufferings of this present time are not worthy to be compared with the glory which shall be revealed in us.”

Disciplining yourself in your health choices can be painful in the moment, but I thank God that He gave us a Comforter and Helper to be with us in those moments. He is our closest friend!

Esau’s story is a cautionary tale about what you can lose when you are impatient and sow to the flesh. However, when you are patient and sow into Spiritual things daily, you will reap life and peace, plus hang on to your birthright and enjoy the fullness of its blessings!

Be blessed in health, healing, and wholeness

Kimberly Taylor

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About the author 

Kimberly Taylor

Kimberly Taylor is a certified Christian life coach and has a heart to help others struggling with emotional eating and weight loss. Once 240 pounds and a size 22, she can testify of God’s goodness and healing power to overcome. She lost 85 pounds as a result of implementing techniques to overcome emotional eating and binge eating disorder.

Kim is the author of "The Take Back Your Temple Program," which teaches Christians how to take control of their weight God's way and the books "The Weight Loss Scriptures" and "The Weight Loss Prayers."

Kim has been featured in Prevention Magazine, Charisma Magazine and on CBN’s 'The 700 Club' television program.

  • Thank you for your article. I find it very helpful. Whenever I make a decision to start eating healthy and exercising there’s always someone in my life who tries to derail me from my goal. It’s something to be aware of. I am making a commitment to not allow that to happen this time.

    Kimberly, Thanks for all that you do.

  • “Once you are on a worthy road, it is best to stay on that road until you reach your destination.” Amen to that statement. I think of the many times I have gotten off the health and fitness road before I got to the finish line. This year I will not let Thanksgiving and Christmas holidays take me off my journey, neither will I let the winter weather give me excuses not to exercise. I will not stop until I reach the goal that I set for 2016. I can do all things through Christ who strengths me!

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