The number one fear people have in starting a weight loss program is fear of failure.

Failure is defined as “Not meeting a desired expectation.”

Remember: Failure is an event; it is not a person. And events are subject to change!

After 20 years of going on and off of diets, I finally learned 5 keys that helped me to prevent weight loss failure.

Proverbs 21:5 says:

The plans of the diligent lead surely to plenty, But those of everyone who is hasty, surely to poverty.”

Diligence means to “pay consistent and careful attention.”

If you want to succeed, then you can’t make this endeavor a rush job; rather you do everything possible to ensure you build a solid foundation to start. Then you build on that until the structure is complete.

Let’s review those 5 things so you can experience weight loss success, starting today.

1. Get the right mindset. Having the right mindset involves 2 things: Your belief and your commitment.

Your belief speaks to wanting to change and believing that you can change.

Wanting to change is not as simple as it appears.

Many people hate the results of excess fat on their bodies, but want to keep loving the habits that led to the excess fat!

But those two things are incompatible. In order to change the excess fat, then the habits that led to it must change too – either through elimination or modification.

It is the nature of sacrifice; you trade things of lesser value for those of greater value.

Secondly, you commit to sticking with your new program long enough to see results.

I love author Darren Hardy’s definition of commitment :

Commitment is doing what you said you were going to do, long after the mood in which you said it in has left you.”

Many people vow to change when the mood strikes them, but as soon as the mood leaves, the vow leaves!

True commitment starts with a “Why?” You determine why must you change and why must you change right now – no waiting on Monday or the New Year.

If that reason is not compelling enough for you to move now, then you need a stronger reason.

Jesus gave us a principle for ensuring that you will finish what you start in Luke 14:28-30:

For which of you, intending to build a tower, does not sit down first and count the cost, whether he has enough to finish it— lest, after he has laid the foundation, and is not able to finish, all who see it begin to mock him, saying, ‘This man began to build and was not able to finish’?”

2. Focus on a change you can sustain. When I was working on my weight loss, I never promised myself that I was going to become a vegetarian or live on a raw food diet. Why? Because I knew deep down I unwilling to sustain them!

While I know the benefits of these lifestyles, I also know me. I would likely stick with them for a couple of weeks and then meat or cooked food would come calling.

When it comes to permanent weight loss, I learned very quickly that you’ve got to keep riding the horse you rode in on.

In other words, the method you choose to lose weight must be one you can live with for life (the horse you keep riding). Otherwise, you will take the mentality that you will “ride it” long enough to lose weight, then go right back to the same habits that made you gain weight in the first place!

That mentality is the reason for the gain weight/lose weight/gain even more weight cycle many people are on.

That is why I think the best approach to weight loss is to assess the core habits you already have and then make adjustments to those rather than trying to overhaul your whole life at once.

What habits do you believe contributed to your weight gain most? Start the separation process. It can be a gradual drifting away or a clean break, but those relationships must change if you want to change.

3. Plan, Plan, Plan. I stated Proverbs 21:5 earlier but it bears repeating:

The plans of the diligent lead surely to plenty, But those of everyone who is hasty, surely to poverty.”

Are you rushing through your days without little thought to taking care of yourself? Slow down. I personally believe that hurry and rushing are great weapons in the hands of the enemy.

In the Bible, you never read anything about Jesus hurrying anywhere. So if hurry and rushing are a big part of your life, then you are adding unnecessary stress. And in some of us, a stressed body holds on to fat for dear life!

Replay your days. Are there activities you need to modify, delegate, or eliminate entirely? Plan your days so that you allocate time to do those things that are most important. That includes taking care of your health through healthy meals and exercise so that you can do what the Lord is calling you to without hindrance.

4. Order, order, order. Speaking of order, your success is found in your daily routine. Order your environment so that following your plan is easier.

For example, you can’t eat fruits/vegetables that you don’t have in your house. On the flip side, you can’t eat cookies that you don’t have available either! So create a structure in your environment and routine to steer you in the direction you want to go.

If you want to have weight loss success, you must place an order for it!

5. Accept that change will feel weird and wrong – at first. Don’t be surprised when change feels uncomfortable at first. Think about the first time you rode a bike or drove a car. Didn’t it feel weird and uncomfortable at the beginning?

You had to think about what you were doing. You had to remember the right actions to take at the proper time. So much thinking!

But what kept you from quitting?

It was that desire to ride, wasn’t it? Freedom, confidence, energy in action…all the things that being able to ride a bike or drive a car represented.

It is the same way with weight loss. What does reaching a healthy weight represent to you? I recommend writing this down and reviewing it regularly so that this image remains in your heart. It must be bigger and clearer than any obstacles that you may face.

That will help you to stay the course when you are making changes. Remind yourself that you need to keep practicing until the new habits feel comfortable and right. When that happens and you do them long enough, you will see results.

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Be blessed with health, healing, and wholeness,

Kimberly Taylor

Author/Christian Life Coach of the Take Back Your Temple program

P.S. When it comes to weight loss, do you often know what you should do but have a hard time doing it?

I struggled with this issue on my own weight loss journey, but I discovered that “Nothing is different until you think differently.”

The value of the Take Back Your Temple program is that you will learn how to think differently through using Biblical keys to overcome obstacles. You’ll discover how to win the Spiritual and mental battle that often causes us to become inconsistent and get off-track on our weight loss journey.

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Are you or someone you know struggling with anger issues? Because many women are struggling in this area, I am writing a Bible lesson on anger.

What is the root cause of anger in the Bible? Anger occurs when you feel like someone has disrespected you, your rights have been violated, your expectations have not been met, or you are outraged about an injustice.

Even God the father and Jesus expressed anger.

However many women don’t feel comfortable dealing with that emotion; instead they keep their mouths closed while seething inside.

But keeping anger inside is like a pot on the stove set to boil. Just like that pot will eventually boil over, so does the woman.

And too often, its the people closest to them that get burned!

While being angry in itself is not a sin, there are Godly and ungodly ways to deal with it. In this Bible lesson on anger, I’ll cover some principles of Christian anger management. 

Bible Lesson on Anger: Jesus’ Teaching

First, let’s look at Jesus’ teaching about anger Matthew 5:21-23:

You have heard that it was said to those of old, ‘You shall not murder, and whoever murders will be in danger of the judgment.’ But I say to you that whoever is angry with his brother without a cause shall be in danger of the judgment. And whoever says to his brother, ‘Raca!’ shall be in danger of the council. But whoever says, ‘You fool!’ shall be in danger of hell fire. Therefore if you bring your gift to the altar, and there remember that your brother has something against you, leave your gift there before the altar, and go your way. First be reconciled to your brother, and then come and offer your gift (Matthew 5:21-23).”

Jesus tells us that before anger is expressed outwardly, it started in that person’s heart inwardly. As I read this passage, I saw something I’ve never seen before.

When you add a ‘d’ in front of the word ‘anger’, what do you get? Danger!

Jesus used the word “danger” 3 times in his description of the consequences of anger.

He even prioritized pursuing peace with others above bringing a sacrifice to God!

Mark 11:25 makes it even clearer:

And whenever you stand praying, if you have anything against anyone, forgive him, that your Father in heaven may also forgive you your trespasses. But if you do not forgive, neither will your Father in heaven forgive your trespasses.”

Bible Lesson on Anger: Cain and Abel

The story of brothers Cain and Abel is the first instance of a person’s anger in the Bible (see Genesis 4:3-8).

In this case, lack of anger management had deadly consequences:

And in the process of time it came to pass that Cain brought an offering of the fruit of the ground to the Lord. Abel also brought of the firstborn of his flock and of their fat. And the Lord respected Abel and his offering, but He did not respect Cain and his offering. And Cain was very angry, and his countenance fell. So the Lord said to Cain,

‘Why are you angry? And why has your countenance fallen? If you do well, will you not be accepted? And if you do not do well, sin lies at the door. And its desire is for you, but you should rule over it.’

Now Cain talked with Abel his brother; and it came to pass, when they were in the field, that Cain rose up against Abel his brother and killed him.”

From Jesus’ words, we know that anger begins in the heart. So Abel’s murder was conceived in Cain’s heart.

Here are the facts:

1. Cain brought an offering to the Lord.
2. Abel brought an offering to the Lord.
3. God respected Abel and his offering.
4. God did not respect Cain and his offering.
5. Cain became angry.
6. The Lord asked Cain why he was angry, then gave him instructions as to how he could gain the Lord’s respect.
7. Cain talked with Abel. Time passed and Cain killed Abel.

Cain was angry at God. Did his anger have a cause? No, it did not.

When you are angry, you should always ask yourself “Why am I angry?” to determine if you have a legitimate cause for it.

Many of our negative emotions are birthed in lying thoughts.

Cain apparently felt that God had wronged him because God did not respect Cain and his offering. But the Lord’s question “Why are you angry” tells us that there was no cause for Cain’s anger.

The Lord told Cain that if he did well, he would have been accepted. Cain did not respond to God’s instruction.

That tells me that Cain had a prideful heart and was not teachable. It appears he was not bringing an offering to the Lord out of love; rather it seems he was just going through the motions, perhaps because of his parent’s expectations or he was just doing it because Abel did.

If Cain had been humble and was concerned with pleasing God, he would have asked Him: “Lord, what do you mean ‘if I do well’? What am I doing wrong? How can I do better?”

I believe that if Cain had a sincere heart to please God, then God would have answered these questions.

Instead, God told Cain that sin was crouching at the door. Sounds like danger to me! However, the Lord also said that Cain should rule over it.

Rule means ‘to take authority.’ The Lord would not have told Cain to do something that Cain did not have the ability to do.

This is an important principle.

We have the power to take authority over anger. Too often, we let anger get out of control because it feels good to our flesh to do so. But as Christians, that is no longer an option because we are submitted to Jesus’ Lordship.

Our heart should always be set on peace – peace with God, peace with ourselves, and peace with our fellow man as we are in position to make it.

Remember: Jesus instructed His disciples to become “fishers of men” (see Matthew 4:19) not to blow up the lake!

In Cain’s case, he did not rule over sin in his heart – the desire to murder. Because he could not take his anger out on God, he took it out on Abel. Abel did nothing wrong.

Cain expressed his anger outwardly and danger was the result. He ended up a marked man, separated from God and receiving judgment.

Cain is an example of how not to manage anger. Let’s look at advice from Psalm 4:4 for advice on how to manage anger.

Be angry, and do not sin. Meditate within your heart on your bed, and be still. Selah Offer the sacrifices of righteousness, And put your trust in the Lord.”

How does the Bible say to overcome anger? (Bible lesson on anger )?

Here are Biblical principles to overcome anger:

1.Be angry…  It is okay to feel the emotion of anger, however always assess it to discover if there is a cause. If you are angry and can’t identify a reason for it, consider it an attack from the enemy.

Submit your feelings to God in prayer or even write Him a letter about it. Ask God to open up your Spiritual eyes so that you can see the truth of what is happening.

Believe that you have God’s peace within and pursue that peace rather than indulging your flesh through unwarranted anger.

2. …and do not sin. If your anger has a cause, then ask yourself…”How have my expectations not been met” or “how do I feel my rights have been violated?”

If the anger comes from unmet expectations, were your expectations reasonable? Did this person have the ability, knowledge, or will to meet your expectations?

Sometimes people can have expectations, but the other person has no idea that you had them. You were expecting them to read your mind!

Make sure that the other person is at least aware of your expectations if you have them. Otherwise, it is not fair for you to expect something of them that you never bothered to tell them about.

If they lack knowledge about how to meet your expectations, could you supply the knowledge to assist them? If they lack the will, then you have a decision to make.

Depending on the relationship, you may decide to limit your association with them or lower your expectations.

Were your rights violated? If you are in a place to do so, be assertive with the other person and state the facts about what happened and then set boundaries regarding the expected behavior.

Once again, your goal is to make peace so that a spirit of offense will not take hold. You don’t want to act in a way that will be a stumbling block to someone else coming to the Lord.

Finally, if you are angry about an injustice that doesn’t involve you directly, then pray for the situation for God’s justice to manifest.

Then pray to ask the Lord if there is anything you can do personally about the situation and for Him to give you the courage and/or resources to take action.

3. Meditate within your heart on your bed, and be still. Selah. Make it a regular practice to take your thoughts captive to the obedience of Jesus Christ.

That way, when situations happen that can spark your anger, it will be second nature to shift your thinking to those things that are acceptable to the Lord according to Philippians 4:8:

Finally, brethren, whatever things are true, whatever things are noble, whatever things are just, whatever things are pure, whatever things are lovely, whatever things are of good report, if there is any virtue and if there is anything praiseworthy—meditate on these things.”

Take moments in your day to just “Be still and know that He is God.”

If you are always running around and don’t stop to catch your breath, then the life’s pressures can make you short-tempered and more prone to use anger as a release valve.

4. Offer the sacrifices of righteousness, And put your trust in the Lord.” You are the righteousness of God in Christ Jesus (see 2 Corinthians 5:21).

Even though it is tempting to let your flesh have its way, act in accordance with your true identity and put your flesh on the altar:

I beseech you therefore, brethren, by the mercies of God, that you present your bodies a living sacrifice, holy, acceptable to God, which is your reasonable service. And do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind, that you may prove what is that good and acceptable and perfect will of God (Romans 12).”

Trust that if justice must be meted out, God will vindicate you:

Beloved, do not avenge yourselves, but rather give place to wrath; for it is written, “Vengeance is Mine, I will repay,” says the Lord (Romans 12:19).”

The way to give place to wrath is to bring it under the Lord’s authority in prayer. Let Him give you wisdom as to how to deal with your anger in a way that pleases Him.

Only then can you experience His peace, which surpasses all understanding. His peace will guard your heart and mind through Christ Jesus.